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Waiting (Impatiently) For My ‘Overdue’ Baby

Why am I being so impatient?

Why am I feeling so frustrated?

41 weeksEthan knows there's a baby in my belly

41 weeks
Ethan knows there’s a baby in my belly

Why am I dragging my feet around the house, instead of enjoying my last few days of being able to give all of my attention to my one adorable child before the baby arrives?

Who am I trusting?

Doctors and scientists who merely observe humans and make recommendations, or the God that creates humans – namely me! – and knows exactly what my body will do and when?

The ‘magical’ 40 weeks date has come and gone. Now I’m at 41 weeks and 2 days, with no sign of baby coming. (Of course, that can change in an instant!)

I woke up this morning needing some encouragement, so I looked for other blogs about ‘late’ baby birth stories. Kim from Dirty Diaper Laundry wrote a great post about the birth of her second ‘overdue’ baby, as compared to her first ‘early’ and induced baby (insisted on by the doctor due to gestational diabetes). She also mentioned three other babies that came ‘late’, and how all of the labors were faster, uncomplicated, and the babies were healthy and alert when allowed to arrive naturally!

In looking back at my own research and previous blog posts, I was reminded of the fact that we still use a formula for calculating a woman’s due date made popular by a German obstetrician, Franz Naegele, in 1838, not even based on empirical data! He averaged gestational length to be 40 weeks from the first day of the mother’s last menstrual period, assuming that the mother ovulates on day 14 of a 28 day menstrual cycle. (Because we all know that every woman has a regular four week cycle and ovulates every month exactly on day 14 … not!)

I do realize that there are times when intervention is necessary and can save a mother and/or baby’s life. Thank goodness for education and doctors when those times come! But do we really need all of the interventions and inductions which cause our bodies to react in ways that are unnatural, thereby making very long and painful labors occur, usually followed by c-sections?

Anyway, back to the facts …

In 1990, Dr. Robert Mittendorf and his cohorts studied 17,000 births and thereby calculated the average length of uncomplicated human pregnancy to be an average of 41 weeks and 1 day from the first day of the mother’s last menstrual period for first time mothers. Even the ACOG (American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists) does not recommend interfering with a normal pregnancy before 42 completed weeks.

And here I am at 41 weeks and 2 days. I’m actually fairly average, at this point!

Not to mention the fact that I was quite sick for about 10 days with a sinus infection and coughing up phlegm. Not exactly a great way to head into labor, so I prayed that God would allow me to heal and gain my strength back before having the baby. He certainly answered that prayer … and then I became impatient on the first day I felt better! (FYI – My midwife also mentioned that women who are sick often do not go into labor!)

So now I just need to rest.

Rest in the sovereignty of God that He knows when Brooke will arrive. Rest on the couch when I’m feeling tired. Rest in the comfort of the arms of my sweet husband, who is fully supporting our natural home water birth. Rest in the knowledge that we have excellent midwives that are here to provide the best care available when the time comes.

Just Rest.

(And of course, take walks and use other natural remedies to help this baby along!)

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Prepartum Depression … really?

Why was I feeling so down the last few days? I have every reason to be rejoicing!

  • We are now living in Flagstaff, Arizona, in a wonderful large house with a great backyard in a fantastic neighborhood
  • My husband just returned from Mexico with the rest of our belongings (after a tiring and sweat-packed four days of driving and packing, alone)
  • I’ve made some great friends that are also moms with young kids
  • We’ve been attending an excellent church and meeting friends there
  • My son is (mostly) healthy and making friends (I think his body is adjusting to the germs and bugs here)
  • We have all the conveniences of living in the U.S. again – parks, playgrounds, restaurants, stores – anything you want at your fingertips
  • And most of all, a loving and dedicated husband that is an awesome Dad!
    Out on the town

    Out on the town

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    Ethan bundled up

Pregnancy blues?

37 weeks

37 weeks

My second pregnancy is going well and I’m 37 weeks along.

To top it off, my dream of having a home birth with a midwife has come true! And not just a home birth, but a water birth! (This has been my desire from the first pregnancy, but wasn’t an option since we were in Mexico.)

So, why was I feeling blue?

I looked around the house and saw things that needed to be done – like putting away everything that just came home from Mexico. And finishing organizing baby Brooke’s room. Washing more laundry and cleaning the kitchen. I needed to buy groceries, since I had eaten mostly leftovers and ‘snacky’ meals while hubby was away. To top it off, Ethan has a stomach bug, again, and was vomiting yesterday morning.

Am I going to be able to handle two kids?

A 19-month-old that still doesn’t sleep through the night (thankfully, Dad has taken over the night shift) and a new baby that will need my constant attention. Washing dirty cloth diapers every day and waking throughout the night for feedings (a.k.a. boobie calls).

Just what the doctor ordered … GNO!

Luckily, I had been invited by one of the midwives to a class last night on using essential oils. My hubby encouraged me to go and he stayed home with Ethan (he has bath and bedtime duty anyway, so no problems there!). I was already feeling a bit better after 2 1/2 days of being down, but a night out with the girls really boosted my mood. Or maybe it was all of the oils we lathered on. (No, wait … it was that amazing Chocolate Bliss Raspberry Parfait that I ate two of!)

I found that just sharing my feelings of inadequacy and being overwhelmed made me feel less alone. Several of the women there have two young kids and said that they mostly stay home, as it is such a hassle to get out the door.

The woman giving the class related one story that really made me laugh (inside, of course!). She remembers laying on the couch during her second pregnancy while her almost 2-year-old was dumping milk out on the kitchen floor. She couldn’t get motivated to even care, let alone get off the couch and clean it up!

I guess I just needed to hear that I’m not alone. I’m normal. I’m OK. I can lay on the couch and nap or just veg out – for a little while everyday if necessary. Nothing’s ‘wrong’ with me. I’m just really pregnant and hormonal!

What is Prepartum Depression?

I thought I was being creative with the term “prepartum depression”, but it’s an actual condition. Who knew?!

Here’s what I found from prepartumdepression.net:

Pregnancy is one of the most beautiful times of any woman’s life. But for numerous women, pregnancy is a time of stress, fear, anxiety, confusion, and even depression. 11% of women suffer from this type of depression according to the recent research.

Prepartum depression is a depression that occurs during pregnancy. It is more like a mood disorder that involves alterations in brain chemistry. As a matter of fact, during pregnancy many hormones change which can influence the chemicals present in the brain of women that are associated to anxiety and depression.

And from allparenting.com:

Recognize the warning signs

It can be difficult to diagnose depression during pregnancy because many of the symptoms are the same as those that occur in a normal pregnancy [yeah, that’s helpful, right?!]. But prepartum depression is a serious medical condition that can impact the normal growth and development of your baby if left untreated, so it is important to get help if you feel you may be affected.

[Here’s the clincher:] If you have persistent symptoms of depression from the list below, lasting for more than two weeks, visit your physician for a medical evaluation.

  • Feelings of guilt, anxiety or worthlessness
  • Fatigue or loss of energy
  • Impaired concentration
  • Changes to eating habits
  • Weight gain or weight loss
  • Difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much
  • Lack of interest in activities that you usually enjoy
  • Recurring thoughts of death or suicide

I think I’ve had bouts here and there, but thankfully, it’s not bad enough or consistent enough to see a doctor. A day or two at the most, and then with some rest, exercise and healthy eating, I always snap out of it. And those evening massages from my hubby are helpful, too!

Nesting

The funny thing is, now I am eager to get some of these last ‘nesting’ things done. I have great energy today and my hubby and I have had good conversation this morning.

I’ve found that I can only handle a couple of hours out of the house a day, and Ethan has his 18-month well baby doctor visit this afternoon. So, I will try to get a few things done around the house before we have to go. Perhaps even 20 minutes of pregnant yoga during nap time. But who knows, maybe I’ll end up just taking a nap while Ethan catches his zzz’s.

And I’m okay with that. Baby Brooke is coming in 3 weeks and I’m giving myself permission to just relax when needed! She won’t care if everything is in its proper place, if her room is decorated or plain, or if all of Ethan’s toys are perfectly organized.

It’s more important for me to be rested, happy, and able to provide a loving and caring home when she arrives!

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